"The confident parent is not the one who knows how to parent in every situation. The confident parent is the one who knows that knowledge will emerge in the midst of the situation.

This parent's mind is free of complications, ready to respond without preconceptions. This parent will always act rightly."
~William Martin

 

 

Hello Dear Parent,

I am so glad you are here.

Welcome.​

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Before I go on, I want to take a moment to honor what you do. Every day. Day in. Day out. Parenting is probably the hardest and the most important and rewarding job in the world.

If you are a parent, or a caregiver of children in any capacity, I honor the fortitude it takes for you to walk this journey with your children every moment of every day. I am grateful that you are here, that you are curious, that you are open-minded.And, I am grateful for the possibility to serve you in any way.

There is a shift happening in the way children are being raised. We are very lucky to live in a time where we have a culmination of decades of research about development and neuroscience, not to mention spiritual guidance and input, to help us raise children with loving connection. We don't need traditional models of the punishment and reward system anymore, a system based in power over our children, a system based in fear. Our loving and kind connection and attunement, to ourselves and to our children, is what helps our child (and us!) thrive and flourish.

This is a method, a way of being, based in shared and authentic power and, ultimately, and most importantly, love. In this method, love is a quality of presence, a relaxed and fully alive state of being, a positive energy we hold. It is a merging of being and doing in one simple act, an act of compassion, in the present moment. Nourished by this consistent and compassionate presence,our child feels connected to her own essence, to her soul. 

The “quality of presence” is a combination of feeling relaxed and calm when in the presence of our child. It is tapping into an energy from which all else flows. Compassion energy is equal parts empathy and equal parts trust. When we empathize, we see to the heart of our child and understand that there is a very good reason she is behaving the way she is. We are understanding, we are accepting. When we trust, we pause and we allow. We create a space, even for just a minute, where a moment of calm permeates and in this moment we turn to hope, to positivity, to all-is-well no matter what. This is the spiritual truth, even in the midst of what seems like chaos or disorder. When we lead with compassion in every interaction, our power and our child’s power work together, and the power-with model becomes a very effective way of navigating the world joyfully.